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Alcoholism never affects just the person with the disease. The entire family, whether they realize it or not, is involved. From children trying extra hard to “be good” to avoid making Dad angry, to a husband calling his wife in “sic… Read More

We are all products, in one way or another, of our experiences. Sometimes those experiences shape our worlds to such an extent that we don’t realize that they’ve affected us; it’s just “the way things were.” In the past… Read More

I was recently asked if I had any blog posts or advice for adult children of divorced parents. I realized I didn’t. As I started to mull over the question, I had to think about the forty years of pain of being a child of two selfish people who cons… Read More

I was recently asked to write a blog for adult children of divorcing parents. I did that and I think you should read it. However, I thought that this blog was needed too. I am the adult child of divorced parents. I am also a divorced mother of adult… Read More

Raising children with another person is a challenge even when you are married. When you are divorcing, with separate households, different parenting styles, and your own rules, things often become much more difficult. Since your children are at the h… Read More

If you’re having a baby, but you’re not married to the baby’s father, you may have a lot of questions about your rights, the father’s rights, and some of the resources available to you. Being unmarried and pregnant presents so… Read More

There’s no doubt that a lack of detail in custody agreements and parenting plans can send parents back to court seeking clarification. To avoid this, some parents try to envision every possible contingency that might arise, and specify exactly… Read More

All parents face challenges when a child approaches college age, but divorced parents face extra challenges: the end of child support, possible changes to parenting time, and, of course, financial aid. Few families can manage the expense of college w… Read More

Children need love, guidance, care, and protection. Usually parents provide that care, often with the support of other adults in the child’s life. But as we all know, there are times when biological parents, for whatever reason, aren’t in… Read More

If you divorce when your child is a teen, they will have friends with divorced parents and a frame of reference from which to understand their new reality. If you divorce when your child is a baby, they’ll never remember a time when their paren… Read More

When you’re in the middle of a child custody dispute, there are a lot of things to think about: how legal custody will be arranged, what your parenting time schedule will be, child support, and so on. One of the last things parents tend to thin… Read More

When our children are small, we know every little detail about them. As they grow older and more independent, they develop friendships, ideas, and interests that they may or may not share with us. For divorced parents, who don’t have their chil… Read More

Despite the significant progress of the LGBTQ movement over the last several decades homophobia is alive and well in America. I was recently listening to a call-in advice podcast. The caller, a mother of a minor child who resided outside of Minnesota… Read More